just read this quote that totally sums it all up for me-- my approach to things-- more so probably than anything else i've ever read or heard:
"The test... is the ability to hold two opposing ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function. One should, for example, be able to see that things are hopeless yet be determined to make them otherwise."
-- F. Scott Fitzgerald
i might want that on my tombstone.